Weddings: Your Little Helpers


So you want to include kids in your wedding? How very lovely, and how very brave. Here are some ways they can participate:


The most popular roles for kids are, of course, flower girl and ring bearer. Traditional etiquette limits your choices to children between 3 and 7 years old, and your own and your siblings’ children take priority. An 8-year old girl can be a junior bridesmaid until she turns 18, when she is promoted to full-fledged bridesmaid. Boys are out of the game at age 8 until they’re old enough to be a groomsman at 18. I can’t imagine they’re too upset about that.

Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. If you’re not a traditionalist, anything goes!

If you have tons of nieces and nephews, or are the Old Lady That Lived in Her Shoe, don’t fret. There are many other roles kids can play in your special day. They can distribute programs, act as ushers, do a reading, or hand out the rice. (If you’re looking for an alternative to throwing rice, check out this Pinterest page for some cute ideas). How about our favorite: if they’re musically inclined have them sing or play an instrument.

Just make sure to keep a sense of humor. Anything can happen when kids are involved…

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